My Support System
In the world there’s nothing better than having people who are with you through thick and thin, people who don’t judge you, support you when you are doubting yourself. There can be only a handful of people in your life you can count on for these things and I have mine and they are called my support system or my back bone.
My support system consist of my parents, husband, In-laws and my few friends.
This page is dedicated to those who have helped me get through some tough time in different scenarios but have always stood by me no matter what. They have tolerated my tantrums and held me when I was weak, have sat silent and heard me talk non stop or crib about things and have also helped me in the time of my breast milk donation.
Let’s start with the introduction of each of them and how they have been there for me in different situations.
Husband
In these crazy and fast-paced times, it’s a tremendous blessing to find someone who shares your values and zest for life. I am beyond grateful for my husband for this very reason. He has been nothing but supportive and encouraging of all my choices. Even during my pregnancy, he was the one who supported me (and my cravings) the most. Post-delivery, he has been the most attentive husband and father.
None of us are born parents; we learn as we go along. I am proud of him as he progresses in his own journey of fatherhood. It’s cute to see him get worried about the little changes happening with our son. He often goes into a panic over everything our son does and bombards me with all sorts of questions. I think it’s safe to say that many mothers around the world feel like they are raising two children when it comes to their firstborns!
Nevertheless, he never ceases to amaze me, and this lockdown has brought us even closer together as a family.
In-Laws
There’s a common notion that you usually won't get along with your in-laws. They are often perceived as rude, unsupportive, dominating, and lacking respect for your personal space, among other things. Well, I lucked out and got the exact opposite. My in-laws have been supportive from the very beginning—not just during my pregnancy, but from the day I entered their lives and became a part of their family. I am blessed to have such a loving family.
When a girl gets married, one of her biggest worries is how her in-laws will be: will they accept her as she is, or will they try to change her? In my case, I feel like I've changed them a bit instead (hahaha). They have always encouraged me to pursue my career, pushing me not to quit my job and supporting my studies for the betterment of my career. They have always been there for me.
Of course, we do have our disagreements, but they have never pushed us away from each other. I lose my temper sometimes, but it's never taken the wrong way. I remember venting to my mother-in-law about things I didn’t like in the house, and not once did she say anything negative—she knew I just needed to vent.
Having a supportive family is essential, as is understanding the importance of family. I value each and every one of them and love them dearly.
Parents
The word “parents” says it all. These are the two people who will be there for you at any given point. They will stand by you without you asking for it, listen to you, taking your worries away in seconds, showing you the path and guiding you. Parents are the pillar of every child’s life and I am very lucky to have the best parents in this world. Teaching me to be independent and not letting that independence get to my head, giving me all the freedom I wanted but not letting me misuse it and never once questioned me on things I did (because they trusted me with it).
No matter how old you get you still want your parents around. The support and the unconditional love they are capable of giving, has no match. I consider myself lucky to have encouraging and ever supportive parents. I love them and would do anything for them, like they would do for me.
Friends
Friends are your second family and as rightly said they are the ones who bear the most. We all have many friends but there are only a few who will stand by you and understand you. I am one of those lucky people who has such friends and can’t do without either of them. The love, the warmth, the comfort we share is simply amazing.
To my surprise, I have my few male friends who understand me just like my female friends. They have comforted me, supported me even if they were not in the same city as I was. They all were just a phone call away. None of them ever judged me and incase they had a doubt, they have asked me on my face about it. They won’t think about what I would feel if I din’t like what they said or even misunderstood them. They would say it and make me understand where I might have gone wrong.
These are the pillars of my life and have always been there for me. My support system has always been strong and made me feel I could conquer anything I wish to. I am the luckiest momma in the world to be surrounded by such people and I love them all.
We all need to trust each other and create a good support system. I hope that everyone who is reading this, is also blessed with a great support system like mine. All the best to the would-be-mommas and the mommas who are reading this.
Lots of love from my support system to you.